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Not perfect enough for perfectionist girlfriend

2022.01.21 04:24 Flawed_Hero Not perfect enough for perfectionist girlfriend

Important background on me (35M). I’m divorced. My ex-wife (11 years) cheated on me. I went to therapy for a year and a half and am doing great, though I retain a fear of abandonment. I’ve been in one serious relationship (7 months) since my divorce and had zero anxiety or trust issues in that one.
My girlfriend (34F) is impressive. She went to a top ivy league school, is an elite athlete, has a great job, and sang in a rock band. She also has a problem with perfectionism (by her own admission) and has struggled in her relationships; she’s had a dozen+ boyfriends over the last decade. Her explanation for this is that she’s “picky”.
We’ve been dating for a year. In many ways, we’re an amazing match. Our values, future plans (we both want kids soon), ways of thinking, interests/hobbies, and needs for physical closeness are all closely aligned. But there have been issues on the emotional front.
Five months into the relationship, I could feel something was off. She had been giving mixed signals, so I asked her about it, and she told me she was feeling unsure because of what she called “awkward silences”. I asked her what she meant by unsure, and she said, “unsure if you’re my forever person”.
Eventually, it became clear that it wasn’t just the silences but my talkativeness in general that she was fixating on and judging to be a problem. Now, I’m a little on the quiet side, but not to any kind of extreme. If anything, she’s quieter than me! So I was shocked that she would question the entire relationship over this. I told her I didn’t want to be with someone who wasn’t excited about me and asked her to think about it. She assured me she was excited and agreed to think about it.
The next time we discussed, she said she felt like she was walking a tightrope because she had decided it wasn’t a deal breaker but that it was important to her. We talked more about the dynamic, and at one point I said, “I think our conversations are usually pretty good, don’t you?” And she responded by saying, “I think we’re here (motioning with her hand), but I could be here”. I asked if she meant with someone else, and she said yes.
That was the moment I really started feeling insecure. It was clear she was comparing me to her exes and wondering if she could do better with someone else.
That comment has continued to eat at me since then. A couple months ago, I told her I didn’t feel accepted and came close to breaking up with her. To her credit, she apologized and took responsibility and offered to go to therapy (I did not suggest this; it was her idea).
She has followed through with therapy and has started showing signs of being more committed and accepting. For example, she wants to move in together this spring. And she has told me multiple times that I’m the best boyfriend she’s had.
But I still feel shitty. Her negative comparisons and judgments have made me feel unsafe, inferior, and disposable. On the other hand, I know she’s trying, and I’m scared to throw away a relationship with someone who’s such a fantastic match on the compatibility front. I’m also aware of my history and know I’m sensitive to this kind of situation.
We’re due for a check-in soon, and I feel a bit lost as to what I want to say. I still find myself ruminating over her comments, and I honestly don’t know when or if that will stop. I think a big part of my anxiety is that I can’t tell to what extent she does this with everyone versus her not being that into me specifically. Is she kinda meh but wants kids so she’s telling me what I want to hear? Or does she sincerely consider me the best and can’t stop herself from having doubts?
TLDR: Girlfriend is awesome but questions the whole relationship over me being a little quiet and compares me unfavorably to others.
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2022.01.21 04:24 MysteryLuca 1 week after BU she's in a new relationship. Don't I matter anymore?

About a year after New Year's Eve, my ex(F/18) and me (M/19) broke up after months of trying to get things right. We've been together for 2,5-3 years, the first relationship for both of us. Just yesterday I was told she's with a new one. I always liked the part of our relationship that allowed us to talk about all the problems, trying to fix them. We also split in a honorfull manner, though we hadn't have chatted since. In late 2021 we had a break for about two month, we said no rules, she slept with a guy that we both now. Anyway we gave it another chance, now again it didn't take her long to replace me.
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Thank you
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